Moving on with my life #2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

My kids are polite and nice to exh and as much as I hate that its the best, but it makes exh think that they are all ok with what he did!

I think you children should be polite, but they should also speak their mind too. The next time he asks your s, and if you don't want him to go with him anywhere, and if your s doesn't either, your s should say "I appreciate you asking me to go, but I am not okay with your decisions that you have made with this family. So, I will have to say no, but thanks for asking"

When I was 16, my parents D at age 14, my dad would keep having women because he couldn't handle being alone. So he would go from one GF to the next (they would normally last a year maybe longer, until the last one he finally M to 8 years ago). Anyways, at 16 I knew that I could make the decision NOT to go stay at his house, and that is what I did. I had a very deep convo with him, the only REAL convo I had ever had with my dad. I told him that I did not believe that he should be living with other women, and that I think it what a bad example to my brother and sister, and I wouldn't be going over anymore.

I can't remember if I followed thru with my boundary or not, but I remember we both cried that day, and unfortunately he still kept living with women, but at least he knew how I felt about it.

I think your S should do the same.


oh, and why your H is curious? IMHO, part of him still wants you, part of him doesn't want you to be happy if he's not happy, and part of it is he is miserable and feels he is getting left behind. But, that is his mistake he must live with. Just expect the behavior, and be happy there isn't anymore fighting, or craziness, and for the most part he is not interfering in your life.