The tunnel of darkness

[kjensen]

Well,
I think I posed the question awhile back-wondering how the MLCer suddenly sees the world more 'realistically'..how does one shift from talking themselves into seeing one reality(which their spouse does not see) then switch to seeing the 'real' situation (the one the spouse does see)?

I think the answer I got was that for the MLCer its a gradual awakening. Someone let me know if thats not what they've seen or understood.

I find it hard to wrap my brain around, but maybe that will change. I think for me its the same issue I had the most difficulty with in the beginning here-the rewriting of the history. To hear it from my best friend (H) definitely made me question my reality and my memory.

Currently it makes me question my perception of situations-wondering if I have a very skewed vision and lots of filtering going on...but I think its him and his perception that is skewed-most of the time!