Gypsy said things along the same lines as what I was trying to get you to see on your own yesterday. To me, it seems like you spend a lot of time, at least here, worrying about what "might" happen or what she "could" be thinking.
I'm challenging you to stop projecting into the future, and live in the now. Stop worrying about her divorce wish list until you actually see it.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.