In my case, it really helped me to hear from friends who thought I'd be better off divorcing (which is what is happening) but I also listened carefully and deeply considered the advice of friends who said we should work it out. In the end, the decision was made based on me being true to myself: I could not be married to someone who cheated on me.
Ideally you shouldn't ask your friends for advice in this area, they can't be objective, they're your friends, they only want you to be happy so they'll take the quickest route to that and agree with your feelings which you are in love with (relatively speaking). You also considered advice from friends that said you should work it out, but your feelings were already focused on the idea of divorcing your husband, the friends that told you to work it out didn't agree with your feelings so you rejected their ideas because they weren't in line with your own.
In the end you say your decision was made by you but if you had friends supporting your decision, it definitely assisted you with the decision making process.
The only thing is that your friends don't have to live with you or your husband or your children, they don't have those responsibilities, they only get the good parts of you.
