Thank you Sandi for the input. I do accept she is not the same person right now. She is still in heavy depression. Her money situation is tough. She sees her life as a miserable wreck. There is no more OM and she discontinued the online dating thing months ago. Now it's about her poor miserable life. Today she asked to borow $400 until she gets her paycheck in one week. I really don't want money to be at the forefront of a reunion. I went ahead and gave it to her. She has been trying very very hard over the last 9 months to avoid asking me for anything, but she is getting to the point where money is becoming a real issue. She doesn't want a recon to be about money and she is working many extra hours to compensate for loss of income.
I percieve that she is still doing things to keep herself in the relationship. She discontinued all dating and is going to counseling on a regular basis. She also asked her counselor about recons. The other day I asked if she would give a friend of mine a recommendation letter to get into the school she is at. She has never done this for any body. At first she said no because she doesn't feel comfortable doing it for anyone but the next day she sent me an e-mail with the recommendation. That was two weeks ago. Not sure what she wants but she knows this friend of mine is very close and if ever we were to recon we would be double dating with his wife.
I will buy the book DR and see where it takes me. Still trying to figure out boundaries though. She is in that MLC selfish mode but still shows some signs of caring. I still think its manipulation though to keep me in the game while she figures her life out.
