flowmom | need to commit to myself

[DiamondGirl]

Even they start pushing back and acting upset about the increased overnights, by then H will be expecting them to stick with the program and expecting me to back him up.

He can expect it, but it doesn't mean you have to agree with him or let his expectations decide the path. You are an individual and equal with regards to your views on your children and their emotional well being. You can make an informed opinion separate from his and are entitled to do so.

What are your expectations of him? You have a right to them too.. Doesn't mean he has to live up to them either though...