...especially after how $hilty I was treated tonite. I was stood up at S9's cub pack meeting. Never told me she wasn't taking him...kept them out to 8PM when tonite is my night ..kept me from doing his homework until late...never notified. Then, my week in the MBR, she plops herself down on the bed at 8P and opens her PC when I am trying to do my son's HW with him.
During and after the marriage, the former spouse could keep me off balance, emotionally cowering and manipulate me. It's not a question of whether it was intentional.. it is a statement of fact.
She blatantly disregarded the agreement in place, did not inform you and acted as if she could do whatever she wanted wherever she wanted. And she did it all.
It isn't that she treated you like a piece of crap. She disrespected the custody agreement, did not inform you of the children's whereabout during your parenting time and violated your agreed upon personal space.
A piece of paper is not going to make her behave.. even though she sounds like a loon.
Document this and send an email to your lawyer. She is breaking the law and agreements.
It's all in how you view yourself.. as the victim or making it right. Goodness knows you've had to deal with years of her increasingly erratic abusive behavior. The time to put in controls is now, before the settlement is signed. Talk to your lawyer about your concerns with her actions and how they may play out in the future. How can you protect your children and yourself.
Mourning the loss of the marriage, the destruction of all happily ever afters, asking what if's is all normal. However, save that until after the battle. One thing that has shone through like the sun on a thousand diamonds is that you're a dedicated loving father and a noble intelligent man.
Let the lawyer be the sword wielding arm, taking directions based on what you need.
Soon, my friend.. soon. And she'll probably get worse before the divorce is final. Look at is as the gustatory cacophony after an all you can eat baked beans and onion buffet. And binge she did. And the quieter it gets, the more it smells.
