My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[awest1217]

Nicole, you are doing great! Everything you are feeling is completely normal and natural to feel and it is great to let it all out on here so you can get advice from all the amazing people who have been through the same thing as you. Keep up the good work. Listen to what lolawar said about finding something else to do when you feel like contacting H. I have made the mistake, early in the process and I did not find DB until H had left for 6 months and as I have said before this is years of the same behavior, of contacting H when he got quiet, and it just hurt me more because many times he would not respond or he would ignore my calls, even when they were important things about S being sick or learning something new (I have an adorable 2 year old son).

Staying quiet and letting him come to you is the first steps. You also need to change your schedule. I had friends come over every Wednesday night to watch a show we all enjoyed. Their son and my son are best friends so it was enjoyable for everyone. Those were my favorite nights, but it could only last during the summer, but I am looking forward to continuing the tradition this year as well. Finding anything to change up what you did so you don't think about H as much will help.

Keep up the good work!