The first thing is to educate yourself with DB information. You can order Michele's DR book, you can read her articles here on her home page, and you can read other threads.
You have to get your self-confidence in gear, know what is the right thing you should be doing, determine to be the head of your family with honorable leadership, and be your own person without living in fear of what your WAW will think.
Accept the fact she is not the same person right now and she needs a strong man, not one who shows weakness, neediness, clinginess, etc.
Expect her to resist you and to test you, but you have to stand your ground.......and be prepared to stand up to her! Be ready to see things from her that you never thought possible. She is a different person, but she can find her way back, so don't give up.
You can't control her but you can establish boundaries with what you will live with and what you can't. It is about respecting you as her H and as a man. Never allow her to walk on you, talk down to you, speak disrespectful in front of your children or others. Respect if a huge issue b/c the WAW has lost her respect for her H.
She has to respect you before she will be attracted to you. She will test you in this area, especially.
Puppy, Coach, and some of the men can help you with boundaries. But for sure, the M will never work as long as she tries to have another man on the side and is addicted to on line dating boards.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
