!Help! Need Advice and encouragement!

[stark648]

Wow---that is a heavy story...

I hope I don't have to face my wife getting pregnant.

To tell you the truth, though, I previously wouldn't have thought I would want to save the marriage if she were to find another man--let alone live with him!

It was wife's birthday today, (d-11 was born the day before her b-day--she always said d-11 was her b-day present)

d-11 called her and wanted to see her.

Wife called me and was going to come by to see d-11, but we were at softball practice for other daughter, though.

I'm sure she was disappointed to not see her on her b-day.

I did tell wife "Happy Birthday" when she called. I think it would have been rude not to at that point, even though maybe not divorce-busting by saying it. She said thank you and sounded grateful that I had said it.

I told her to check her voicemail, that the girls had sang Happy Birthday to her on the way to softball. I know she's missing the girls.

I did tell d-11 not to call and invite her momma over without my permission anymore. I had a hard time explaining, but I insisted she stick to my rules on this. I also tried to comfort her, as she was upset.

Before bedtime, the girls and I were all kinda playing around, tickling, pinching, throwing stuffed animals at each other, etc. It seems like everything's normal and okay when we do stuff like that. We've been doing it a lot lately.

I have always tucked them in and kissed them goodnight, too.

I think the girls are doing as good as can be expected.

I like to think it's not as rosy over at OM's house as wife would like it to be...

I'd still like to tell her the "you've made the biggest mistake of your life" speech. She really does listen to people and can be swayed---even by me, even now, I think.

But I'm trying to let her figure it out on her own. I just don't think she can with all the other input of bad info and advice.

Seems like somebody ought to at least throw that opinion out there. Instead of advice like : "take care of you"-- "follow your heart" --"do what feels good"--"you deserve to be happy"

I gotta go pray and sleeeeeep...