flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

If I don't agree to what H wants, he's going to want me to go with him to the psychologist to do the coparenting plan.

I just saw this- Flowmom, going to the psychologist could work in your favor! I mean it is a way to get what is best for the kids without you being the one to say it...an objective party.

IN FACT, I seriously, as a child advocate, recommend that YOU tell Flowdad that you want to set this up with the psychologist! Like

"you know, I was thinking. It was a good idea of yours to meet with the psychologist to arrange our visitation schedule/co parenting plan. Do you want me to set that up? When are you available? "

make it HIS idea, agree with him- 180 180 180! and again, do you really think the psychologist will agree to suddenly change this on the kids, especially your son who has Autism?

Well, I initiated the whole coparenting plan thing because H was pressuring really hard about mediation right when he separated from me. I had no idea what to do so I came up with the coparenting plan idea as an alternative "let's just tackle one thing at a time". I found the person and H went to see her once by himself and I was supposed to do the same. I didn't follow through because the DB coach advised against it because 1. the coparenting was going OK at the time and 2. she thought it would invite a lot of divorce talk. The coparenting plan hasn't been brought up by either of us since shortly after the separation. Maybe it would be a good idea.