Checking in as I said I would - I'm guessing he didn't go to a L today? AS I said, extreme flip flopping is normal in this crazy world. Just because they left doesn't mean they don't have a huge amount of confused feelings. My H blew up a few times and threatened an ugly D where he'd screw me - it never got there. He did it many times actually. But after six months or so the flip flops got a little smaller. At least D didn't come up. He still has extremes.
Yep he wants to take care of you and return, AND he's scared it will go back to the way it was. You can bet on it. Most WAS who consider reconsiliation do. But if you keep DBing - being mysterious, not taking the bait, keeping the convos short and to the point and getting off the phone first, GAL etc, he will be forced into making his own decision. That's all he can do. You cannot force him into a decision.
The only way he will feel secure is with time. Time showing him that things can be different - and he will experience it over time. Then it will take more time for him to believe that the changes he's experiencing isn't just to get him back but is for real.
But think of it this way, you are in such a better place than so many on these boards where the WAS seems on a fast train to D-Land. The waffle is good.
