I gathered from one of her books that you don't bring up the relationship- as a way to not pressure or push closer to divorce. (I get that it is different with LRT when you state you need no contact unless it is to talk about renewing your marriage or divorce)

BUt I don't have the books handy at the moment so I can't quote it! I just have been following this rule since 10/15/09!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004