My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Thank you for your words of support. I know I shouldn't take anything personally but he was really pretty mean on Saturday to me. He told me that he had to force himself to come home to our home because he is so unhappy here. That's weird because if I remember correctly he was the one who looked so upset and emotionally distraught and didn't know what was wrong with himself.

I think dburt is right that when he does finally make contact with me that if I appologize or ask how he is that will be the husbands ways of being in control of the situation. I am staying strong and not contacting him. He has the next two days off of work as far as I know.....so we will see if he has the time or energy to actually get in contact with me. However, I am getting the feeling that he might be filing for divorce. I just don't know. He has been down this path before and made the same threats and not followed through.

When he was here on Saturday and said that he didn't think I knew how close he was to filing. It was almost like he expected me to say something. Did he expect me to say something that might change his mind? I'm not sure. I think he wanted my permission though. I've run this through my mind a million times and it is just strange.

I just keep thinking this situation is so high school and I am over it. The fact that he won't admit he is trying to date someone while being married is so annoying and I really feel like I should somehow gain proof and call him out on it. I don't have access to his cell phone any longer. Beyond following and stalking him I don't know what I can do or should do. Again, need to stop focusing on him and focus on myself. I know.