Yes, you have to not make him feel "broken" or "wrong" or "inadequate" for not showing you affection, love, or sexual interest back. Which is why it is important for you to be confident and self-grounded and independent to some degree, and I would think some of the therapy is to help you with that.
A sense of humor, consistently positive reinforcement, and letting go of past injustices are all important. Not always easy to do.
