Why does this work like this? Reading the book and so many of the posts here the same theme comes up. Why does being unavailable work? I gotta say it is very difficult to do. The hardest of the suggestions is not telling her I love you, but this is not much easier. Do not get me wrong, I am willing to do it for our relationship if that is what it takes, but why does it work so I can have a reason in my head?
B/c humans want what they can't have. Men chase the women who are a challenge for them to catch. Women dream of those men who are out of their league. Read the thread here on the board from the LBH's and tell me if they don't all have the same reaction. The minute they get the bomb from the W, they immediately want her more than life itself. Ever wonder why? B/c he's losing her! He's been told that he can't have her anymore, so ofcourse, he is desparate. It is the law of nature.
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How can I tell if she does not want it? She hugs me back and a lot of time she gives me a kiss on the cheek or on the lips, but just a quick peck.
You can't read her body language? You will have to be the one to decide if she's faking it, enduring it....or if she means what she's showing.Same about bedtime.
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I do not know how to be happy and easy going without sharing things with her and waiting for her to come to me. I have never been that way.
It's not like you have to go the rest of your life like that, but if she is a WAW, then you have to back off and you need to have something in your life that does not include her. If not, then it make you co-dependent on her,and that's not attractive.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
