"YOU CONTACT his family members DIRECTLY and exchange gifts privately, you call his mother and father privately to wish them the best, you do NOT go wtih him or meet him there."
PLEASE TAKE ALLEN'S ADVICE ON THIS ^. You can read my thread and see that I attended my MIL bday party and i don't think it did me any good...in fact, it just opened up a can of worms and set me back. Follow this PLEASE.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo