whitney, what are your small goals? Can I suggest some? I'm going to anyway. I think for you it's time to add some manipulation.
LISTEN twice as much as you speak. We have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Now the other half of this is that you have to REMEMBER what's said. If she has a hobby, ask about it. You can still be grey and ask about her interests. Plus it's an ego boost when someone is asking about you. She's going to see that CONSISTENTLY, you are asking about X hobby, and how it's going. Do some research about it too, so you're well informed when you speak. Ask interested questions. Then when you've really got her going about it, ZAP, end the conversation "Oh sorry, I'm out of time, I have somewhere I have to be right now". This little manipulation tactic works best when you're dropping OFF the kids, because she'll call your bluff about going somewhere if you have the kids. What appointment would you have that you're bringing the kids with?
Eventually OM is going to stop asking about hobbies. So you will have this "how was your day" thing going in your favor. Remember stuff she says from one week to the next and follow up. It'll put you into some good graces as a friend, but you're not making yourself too available. Remember, you won't settle for anything LESS than a full reconcilliation.
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.
