still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[newmama]

Thanks Blownaway, chime in any time! My concern about WH NOT living in our house is that if he is away, I will have a harder time checking up on him to see if he is being transparent. Also, I am 99.9% sure that OW will pop back up and pursue him, or follow him or do other stuff (stalker...)
so if he is with me, then that will help to reduce the "access" to him. Does that make sense?

We have a spare bedroom. I posted a looong list of things to work through if we R. So I completely see being able to do that while he is living here.

To me, completing that list and being committed to it is "earning it!" Do you see my view point?

Oh and I am not naive about the fact that just because he says it's over means it's over, since he told me that back in Jan 09 and they were still communicating.