still separated, in limbo, still hopeful

[newmama]

Saint (hope you don't mind my nickname)thanks for the reassurance and validation to keep doing what works.

Again, my goal is not to end the A because I personally have no power to do that.

HE is the only one who can do that. Just like we have no power to make someone pass a driver's test even though we can sign them up for the test or "enjoy their job" even though we can give them a job.

From my experience giving him ultimatums 2x and both times failing (first time he lied, second time he chose her) I see that you can't make someone do soemthing they don't want to.

My goal is to pull him toward me but I do need to repost those DB goals I had earlier!

S was born in July so we separated when I was about 7 months pregnant I think.

As for not giving an ultimatum in May, what about going NC in May? Or should I just keep on keep on-- you see I can totally see myself keeping on but getting more and more busy, especially since I get to move back into my classroom in July.

Something that does concern me is the longer we are not married, the more disconnected we will be, right? Part of me feels we will be able to get back into our groove (chemistry wise- we are pretty darn compatible, the idiot!) but of course have colossal damage to repair from this whole mess!