Next time your wife says "it was just talk" you reply
TALK ENDS MARRIAGES.. TALK is how GOSSIP STARTS... TALK is how AFFAIRS START... TALK HURT HIS WIFE.. TALK HURT his marriage.. TALK isn't "just" talk.. its DESTRUCTIVE talk... it hurts FOUR PEOPLE at once
And if she challenges that you are talking to OMW you tell her
The TALK I am having isn't SECRET and I am NOT COMPLAINING about you.. I am PROTECTING THEIR MARRIAGE