Sorry about not checking in earlier. I moved my thread over to MLC and have been getting some very good advice. I think going alone would be good. You need to talk this out. I think the MC is right that H will need a lot of therapy. Same with my W.
I think that is your question. It's scary to think about and what if he doesn't get "better"? What if he doesn't stay committed to his treatment? What if there is more acting out before he realizes he needs help? No guarantees here. I think you really just need time to evaluate the situation.
No one is holding a gun to your head. If you had known that he might have bi-polar disorder would you have married him? What if he had cancer? Would you stay? I am not saying you have to give up your life for soemone. As someone said to me cancer doesn't make people behave badly. I think the answer is as long as I see a COMMITMNET from her that she is trying deal with her illness I can handle the fire.
She is not there yet. Don't know if she will ever get there. Your H ain't there yet and may have a lot more pain to go through and inflict on you in the process. Unless you decide to leave, put up with it(not an option if you're here), or detach and wait and see.
Grit.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
