Kat, I'm so sorry!!! I'm surprised they would take that seriously--I mean if basement flooding 2 years ago is one of the serious allegations--give me a break. Like you did that on purpose or something??? WTH!!!!
That someone could be so nasty; and hurt you and your children like that!!! How can people like that sleep at night???
An accusation leveled with frightening procedures inflicted on your children while the finger of blame is pointed like God's finger toward you would rattle anyone.
Alright.. it had its effect. It scared the bejesus out of you.
What are your next steps? Goodness knows that being intimidated and withdrawing is one I know well. However.. let's break this down.
The basement of home flooded two years ago.
Was their father living there at the time? Was he aware of the incident? Do you have any emails, journaling, etc. that speak of the incident and what you did? Write down everything you remember of this. Bureaucracies love paper.
Who can you turn to?
Inform your lawyer who is undoubtably aware of what tactics are used in divorce and how to address them.
Ask the social worker at the school, a friend with knowledge, your counselor how this procedure is handled. Many times they have to follow protocol when a complaint is filed.
Ms. kat.. you're in the right. You did what was right two years ago. Do what is right now. Because as I am continually reminded my greatest enemy is my own fears.
I fell asleep okay only to start tossing and turning around 4. then all the birds get into the act chirping away like I should be happy that they are there. I gave up at 5:30 and came downstairs and took a bath. Too bad I couldn't go back to bed.
I think I will call mt C. Even though I haven't seen her in a bit over a year she may be able to guide me. Deep breaths, it is going to be fine, I am going to be fine. I see it that way in my head anyway.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
This sucks!! I am sorry. Is is that simple to accuse someone of neglecting/abusing their kids? I mean all these interviews, dont they scare the kids? Dont be afraid. You have nothing to be afraid of. Hugs K
All you have to do is put in a claim I guess. The thing that maddens/hurts me is that it is someone I know. Granted nearly everyone's basement got flooded a couple of years ago when the city's system couldn't handle all the rain. They asked the kids about mold in the basement.
The younger kids thought everyone was being asked these questions and didn't think anything of it. I guess the younger ones were talked to last week. It took them talking to my oldest for it to all click.
I did talk to my C this morning since she is a licensed social worker. She said they would propbably come by unannounced and look at my cupboards, and my refrigerator to make sure there is food.
Just as I felt like I could trust people again, I am betrayed.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
That is so awful, I am sorry you are going through this! But, the truth will come out, right? Keep your head up, try not to panic. I am sure it is scary, but you will be ok and so will your kids!
A wee bit late, but heartfelt all the same: ((((((((((((Kat)))))))))))))))
I'm not sure your ex might have been involved or not. But you know what they say, throw a stick into a pack of dogs and the one that yelps first is the one that got hit. Likewise, when you have two or more kids together and you mention to them some infraction that had occurred while you were gone -- nine times of ten the first one to say, "I didn't do it!" is usually the one who did (especially if they blurt it out even before you've had a chance to finish what you're saying about it. LOL.)
Not always, mind you, but it sure makes them look nonetheless guilty.
