It's complicated but it's mine #28

[kat727]

J texted me a bit ago to see how I was doing today. I told him. He asked what he could do. I told him a virtual hug would have to work since he isn't here. Then I had to tell him how to do one of those.

It is raining again and I think it is suppose to all day. Just one of those intersection days where everything seems to come at once.

Thanks for being nice and supportive. kat

[kat727]

Just what I didn't need today. Someone anoymously reported me to social services. They pulled S14 out of class last week but he thought they were talking to everybody and today they pulled S17 out of class. He called me as soon as he got home.

I guess in the complaint they mentioned the basement flooding 2 years ago. I bought a big fan to dry it out. Washed everything with Clorox. I can't help but think that this is ex or his girlfriend, maybe even my former in-laws. OMG who wants to hurt me and my kids this bad???

I won't say my house is spotless because it isn't. I am so scared right now and forget holding it in, I am crying my eyes out. I know I haven't done anything wrong but sometimes that doesn't mean anything.

kat

[JCJ]

(((Kat))) I don't know what to say except hugs. I'm so sorry!

[MichelleLT]

OMG That's horrible sweetie!

You haven't done anything wrong, and the investigation will show that.

Try and remember to breathe.

[kat727]

Ex just called me denying that he had anything to do with it. I guess they spoke with the girls today too. I guess the sooner this gets over with the faster I can get back to life.

Like I said even though I haven't done anything wrong, it scares me. I have always hoped that the kids felt I was a good Mom and now having that called into question by a stranger scares me even more.

What do they know about what I have gone through, survived in fact. My kids don't need this, even having the thought cross their minds that someone might try and take them away from me.

Ex thinks it might be one of the parents of S17's friends. Who knows, I may never find out. Don't they know I have to go to the store practically every three days because my kids eat me out of house and home?

I am making myself crazy with all this. I better get going.

kat

[MichelleLT]

Breathe.

You'll survive this just like you've survived everything else.

Breathe.

[mishka422]

OMG Kat! That is horrific. I am so sorry.

What the heck would the basement flooding 2 years ago have to do with anything? Are they thinking there is black mold or something growing in there that could endanger them?

Why would someone do something so horrible without having talked to you first? That is a cowardly, disgusting thing to do.

I wish I could give you a super big hug. I'm praying for you sweetie.

[kat727]

Thanks guys. Today has been a day from hell that is for sure. I cried to my best friend here, talked to J and was feeling a tad better until ex called.

Funny how he says this is about him and how he wants more time with the kids. I don't think I have heard anywhere in there that his parenting skills are being called into question.

I just feel like crawling deeper into my shell. Don't they know how long it has taken me to start to trust again?

Then I think about the time D9 was trying to claim her lunch was lettuce and a cookie. Had she done that before? Or what about when she wouldn't get a move on and change her pants that she had gotten dirty before school. We ended not having time to change. I am putting everything under a microscope.

I could use a super big hug about now.

kat

[JoieDeVivre]

Kat,
I know someone who went through something similar a few years ago -- and this man is a pastor! He was having issues with his teenage daughter and she complained that he was abusing her. Social services saw right through that after interviewing the entire family. So I agree with Michelle ... this will blow over, and hopefully blow right into the face of whoever made such a false accusation!

Joie

[MichelleLT]

One of my friends is also dealing with CPS. His XW is causing drama. CPS interviewed the kids and realized there was nothing much to it. It was a hassle, that's it.