Yup, its an excuse, he wanted to call her anyways.
Your friend now just needs to tell him that
"Your contact with this woman is making your WIFE ILL.. THAT is why she doen'st want to talk to you... she KNOWS you are talking to OW and it makes her ILL.. you want your WIFE and MOTEHR of your kids in a HOSPITAL? Is OW THAT important that you woould allow your wife to end up in a hospital?"
She also needs to tell him ENDING CONTACT must be FORMALized and with a family therapist, he can't just do it in secret and not make formal commitments...
My wife tried the same approach as your H... end contact on THEIR TERMS in PRVATE...
Never worked... it doens't work...
You need to send your freind some flowers or something for talking to him...
If your friend can gety our H to agree to see a FT in private while you see the same one in private, then your friend doenst have to negotiate for you anymore, teh FT can do it...
Your freind is basically playing the part of a FT until you can get your Husband to agree to see one with you (separately)
