here we go again

[Jstar]

here's a question:

if db goes in a certain order or what could be considered logical order

stage 1 rid of negative feelings
stage 2 become friends
stage 3 rekindle romance
stage 4 recommit to marriage

what if you and spouse skip stages? Ive seen some advice be about one spouse moving back into marital home and 1 spouse not even be in stage 1.

to put it to my stich: i think i'm rid of the negative feelings, notice i say think and convos on my end are friendlier, i would not consider myself being friends with him.

h is still holding onto negative feelings, he thinks they willjust disappear one day and has made claims to want to just be friends.

i guess i should set some goals.

1. no relationship talk
2. be positive and act as if
3. no initiating contact unless absolutely necesary