How to approach W about OM

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My W gave me the opportunity to speak to her. She first wanted to go over why I went to her work and how embarrassing it was and how people t work will not let it go. I told her I was trying to protect our M and whatever R we do have and the same could be said by OMW.

I told her I did an do talk to OM and he and his wife are working things out and he understand the importance that communication must stop for the sake of his marriage.

Then I spoke about the commitment I made to better myself and I will continue to do so and I am the process of getting in touch with a FT.

She said "I'm happy you are trying to better yourself so you can lead a happy life but understand I cannot ever get over or get past what you did and when I do leave don't think it is because I wanted someone else but because I can never forgive you."

I tried to get up and walk out the room and she said "where you going?" I replied "I think this conversation is making a turn for the worse and I don't want to inject negativity into it" and she said "I am just telling you how I feel and I want you to listen"

Then I get a call from a private number and she became curious as to who it was. So much she is now holding my phone hostage. My wife answered the phone and the person hung up and now it is bothering her so she is holding on to it. So I let her.

I told her "It was good to get the opportunity to speak with you, I have nothing to hide"