Hi brand new day my hubby left the first time last may (i didnt know about the o/w until 2 months after he had gone he was gone for 3 and half months. The second time he left he left for a month on both occasions however i threw him out, the first time cos i never saw him and thought he was just going out with mates, the second time i threw him out cos he was still seeing her behind my back??? Before he came back he was the one ringing saying how much he missed me and wanted to come home well at first he didnt the longer he stayed away he said the more he realised he loved me and wanted to be with me, i did see the texts he sent her and the first 4 wks he was open about her trying to get in touch with him but then i stopped asking as much, if i ask he still says he not seeing her or having any contact, he does seem very depressed ive asked him this and hes said yes, i just put it down to with drawing from her???

Hi tipper i thought exactly what you have said but wasnt sure if it was me not trusting enough (what a joke how does he expect me to that will take time) Ive not seen any proof that hes still seeing o/w and hes spending alot more time with me and most of the time hes all over me, he does look me in the eyes now where as before he would look anywhere but me, the first time he came back i put a tracker on the car thats how i knew, this time he swore blind that its done so didnt want to do that again (do you think i should) if i ask questions he will answer them, i just dont know what or how to go about any of this without seeming as though im not moving on ive even told him if hes still seeing her to go cos i wont share and hes adamant hes not. I do know hes got money issues but wont ask me to help as he amounted them when he was trying to impress her. Im just trying get on with my life but its so hard wondering all time is it worth it??? if hes pulling the wool over my eyes, thanks for replying any advice truly appreciated thanks again xxx

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