The difficult thing is that our marriage was good, really good for many years (probably 18 of the 20). Then, he started traveling more with hi job and I begged him to cut down on the travel. But, now he tells me he loved that part of his job...I never knew. I didn't get ANY communication and he just went along with everything until the OW came in the picture and has "masked" all the hurt and anger. It's classic MLC and I fought hard, but how long do I wait? We even went to Michelle W-D who wrote the Divorce Busting books, but I think he was just "done." Since that day back in June, I've seen my stbxh a few times and he looks terrible (gained weight, very gray, very sad). Is he really happy? I would have done anything to save my marriage given the chance; I didn't get that chance. So, I stopped trying to fight it and I've begun to look forward.
I love LOVE, I will always have LOVE, and I will find another to share that LOVE. I WILL LOVE again....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
