How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

My Wife had called me on her lunch break to ask "were you talking to anyone last night" not with anything to hide I said "yes" and she said we can talk when she gets home.

She got home before I did and when I got there she said "the reason why I asked that is because you insisted all these phone calls stopped but yet your doing the same thing" I explianed that it is not the same. I am ensuring that the OM and OMW wife understand the situation and for the better interest of our marriage as well as theirs all communication must end. She really had nothing to say in return but seems to think what she was doing was not wrong it was "just someone to talk to" and thinks I am doing the same thing. rather than make my point I just ended the conversation b/c I knew it would only escalate.