NM, my H wasn't fully out of the house. I had kicked him out before DB, and then talked to a great christian friend who said, "who's influence would you rather him be in, yours, or his single friends?". I told him the next day that I didn't want to kick him out of the childrens' lives before needed, and that he was welcome to stay as long as he kept contact out of the house.

so, at that time, he had been going back and forth from friend to home. and I was actually staying at my moms in another state for a couple weeks (at his request) so that he could "think". that scared me a lot, but I did it. so, after the text I came back home and he was back fully. EXCEPT, the A didn't totally end (meaning, the contact, the physical was definitely done) until almost 6 months later.

this thing takes TIME!!! have patience. you can do this! yours is a little more difficult because the OW is close, and even closer if he was living with her. My H's ow was 5 hrs away, so that wasn't an option for him.

but I see progression, so keep doing what your doing for now.

(((newmama)))

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."