My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

thanks, gardener. you have a lot of wisdom.

I have a 14-year-old daughter starting high school in August. For now, her needs take priority--but that's as it should be, and as I want it to be. She and I are writing this next chapter.

Interesting--one of the things I struggle with is forming hopes and dreams for myself. I want D14 to be well and happy, I would very much like to love and be loved by someone deserving. but beyond that--I don't know. those muscles have atrophied! I've helped 2 husbands now get educations and establish careers while I essentially put myself on hold--and that didn't turn out so well; now I'm alone and if I had focused on my own career I'd be more financially stable. I'm not saying that because I'm bitter, but it illustrates what happens when we continually defer our happiness for that of someone else--who doesn't deserve the sacrifice.