Well I am reluctant to change much more because I have been occupying myself and receiving more effort on his part. So shouldn't I be doing more of the same? And please remind me why/how it could be beneficial to not act pleasant but be Spock like. What will I be looking for from WH?
you are absolutely right, you do not want to become the opposite of cheerful and pleasant. that will only show him what he doesn't want and how will that help you towards your goal?
you can do other things, but right now, you are mentioning making some changes in the last couple weeks and you have noticed his reactions changing. you need to stay on this path for a while and see how things go.
and do NOT make a decision in May to D, IMHO, that is way too soon. and what ultimatum would you give? he doesn't live there right?
so did you have the baby after or before the S (separation)
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
