So I am still struggling to understand something (sorry to be dense) IF YOU DON'T TRUST HIM, will you NOT co-parent with him? In your country do you have the right to not involve him as a parent? Meaning (sounds bad) cut him out of your life and the baby's life, and then be free to find a new husband/father one day?
The reason why I ask this is because if you literally want no contact UNLESS he is willing to reconcile, then it will be easier to follow through on NC if he is not a part of your life or the baby's.
And WH and I never took co-parenting classes ahead of time. After S was born, he was waaaaay more attached to him than he expected to be but it didn't change his opinion of wanting to R.
I have read several cases where they did want to R after the baby came, though, which made me hopeful, but didn't turn out in my case. So it is a possibility though since I read that it happened to others.
Hope I didn't confuse you more!
And if you don't want to go overseas and move, then maybe legally (if that is an issue)you fight for full custody!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
