Far too often they DON'T go to counselling when feeling like this, they find a female "friend" who has a shoulder to cry on...
depending on where a person is in their problems, and especially if there is already another possible person available to become a OW/OM, going to counselling iMHO is not always a good option. many times it will help the person discover how unhappy they are and how they need to move on and "find their happiness". now, if they went to someone like michelle, I would say differently, but even pastors, that believe in M's don't always fight for the M.
I had my H go to one, and I think it only verified his feelings for leaving. I even made sure I got a guy that was pro-marriage.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
