How do I act?

[Surviving03]

WOW... i had my first DB phone coaching today with Jody... man do I feel a ton better! I feel like I am equipped with a plan and I feel more confident that i CAN do this! I feel like she really understood the situation and had a lot of insight.... she told me I need to send my H a "letter of release" before he comes home, not expect him to respond, but I needed to show him, without trying to change his mind, that i DO understand his concerns in our marriage and it will be my first time really validating his feelings. So I am going to work on that letter and trust her with that strategy... my strategy after he comes home still falls pretty in line with the DB methods but I need to put that out there for him to think about. Wish me luck!