If the phone is ringign then you get a high from it, it makes you feel loved and like yoru marriage has hope.. it can get VERY addictiev and is NOT healthy...
You end up invsting YOUR emotional health and physical health into your phone ringing.. and basically hand your health over to your spouse to control
If he wants you to feel good, he calls, if he wants you to feel bad, he doens't....
The phone is a dangerous thing here.. it CAN become a fixation.