Looking for help with WAW

[Ken62]

mza,

I know that it is hard to let her go. I'm trying to do the same thing right now. Our papers will be filed with the court next week and will be official in three months and I also don't have a lot of hope for our M but I'm not going to stop Going Dark and GAL. I am going to make myself the best person I can be and if my W sees that and has doubts, then great but if she doesn't, then it is her loss. Someone else will get a great me and it must not have been meant to be wth my W. After 24 years I also love her dearly and think that the M could be saved but she has NO desire to do this so I have to let go. Listen to Sandi and Steve and Maynard and try to focus on YOU! These people know what they are talking about and have wisdom way beyond mine. I know how hard it is to not talk about your R with your wife and how MC could fix it but she doesn't want it to be fixed right now and maybe she never will. SHE has to come to her own conclusions and nothing you say to her will change this. There is nothing I would like more than the chance to have a one or two day intensive with Michele with my W and I but I doubt that it will happen and I wont even push for it or mention it to my W.

I know everything you are going through but all you can do is work on yourself and make yourself the best most attractive person you can be and you will feel better about yourself and you will have confidence in yourself and who knows how that confidence will be perceived by your W but it shouldn't matter how she feels because it is about how YOU feel.

Best of luck,

Ken