Yesterday he came home at regular time - this is the 3rd day in a row - ow must be out on a bank closing (AGAIN, YOUR TURNING A POSITIVE INTO A NEGATIVE)...so as for reconnecting...not sure about that - he really didn't talk to me at all when he got home and he slept on the couch. I was curious to see if he'd come to bed but he didn't. That tells me alot.
it will only tell you alot depending on what you did the day before. so when he did come to the room, what did you do differently? how was your attitude. it seemed to me that the day he stayed in your bed you were agreeing to what he wanted to do, but you didn't seem very happy about it. like you were just conceding. people don't want their spouse to just concede. they want them to be engaged.
also, if your friends have always said what a jerk he is, and you think he is so conniving and evil, why are you trying to make this work?
one, because I think deep down you don't 100% believe that, and 2 because you do love him, and you love him for a reason.
don't forget the 2 years that he wasn't being loved by you. do you think that possibly, your actions caused reactions in him? and vice versa? the answer is yes.
if your H has been a jerk from the day you met him, then maybe I would have a little change in opinion, but I doubt that is true. Your friends only heard your side and only see your hurt. Us LBS's are not the only ones hurting.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
