Thanks Puppy A friend of mine has been using her...but just relationship issues that are occurring in her marriage..very early on..such as sharing responsibilities..showing affection..that kind of thing..so I am not sure how she will be in this situation.
I did have a lengthy conversation with her late last week but I am not sure what to make of it. She asked me several times..."and why do you want to stay with him?" I described to her my H's moods and behavior and shared with her what my H's IC told him about his lack of empathy. She says that without even meeting him...she believes that his sitch is going to require extensive therapy...especially because of his family history of bi-polar.
She also said that she would meet with us..but would like to meet with me separate. In an earlier post I mentioned that this concerned me. I felt like (and perhaps I'm wrong) she thought that I was in an abusive relationship or co-dependent (which may be the case). She was very adamant about me not letting him back in the house. She also said that your H will basically need to kiss my as* for the rest of his life to make up for his mistakes. (doesn't sound like pro marriage)
My friend has been to multiple therapists..but absolutely loves this woman. I actually did like my talk with her as well. Will an MC that is against marriage say "sorry- it is over..cut your losses" during MC?
