<blush> Thanks! I would give him a coronary, because I'm pretty sure, WHEN this thing turns around, he's going to be hearing all of my grievances at gunpoint! LoL (KIDDING!!!)
ST -
I knew I'd get your approval!! Haha
No big TALK planned, just mini-versions of fact-finding, clearing the air, etc... I can't handle a TALK as I'd sob, and then he'd leave. That just doesn't work for us. HOWEVER, if I can handle some talking points, strategically timed between these positive moments, we're in the right direction.
Timeframe? Nope, but I'll definitely think on that!!!
Newmama -
Thanks for the support!!! Don't forget to add AofS to the DB'ing meets love language! I'll be a freakin' self-help FORCE! But, trust me, I'm pretty sure, Mr. NO TALK, isn't waiting for me to bring up the marriage issues. He'd be more apt to start to move towards our "normal" again w/out it ever coming up. Well, THAT is not going to happen. He's going to at least HEAR some things, albeit in a less pushy manner....
Kalni -
Shaddup! LoL It's almost Spring here now. I'll switch over!
Blownaway -
Thanks for the cheer!!!!
Last edited by mindfull; 03/09/1002:20 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
I am glad you got a chuckle out of the "baby doll"...
Anyway, yes I do alot of the flip flop..
I really wish I was in your shoes right now.. I can feel your confidence..
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thanks MF for your thoughts. Yes I read them and thank you... I hope to be where you are right now soon..
Love the phrase, WONDER WIFE AND MOM!!!... awesome..
Its not easy, and its very hard work. I just wish I knew all this in my early years of marriage.
Keep posting please.
M 43 W 43 S15 S 12 D 10 ILYBNILWY ( Dec 2009) Sleeping separate rooms April 8 2010. Sep as of 07/14/2010 W moving out 07/31/2010 No OM confirmed ( yet)
That's what I am until about 1pm CST, weekdays. LoL
Drop off kids in jammies... come home, and dress for a run or walk... work in stinky slumpf wear until after lunch, shower and become...
WONDER WIFE AND MOM!!!
MF, this routine sounds like it could use adjustment . You don't need to spend most of the day feeling slumpfy. Couldn't you start your day in cute workout wear? Then exercise after dropping the kids off, then immediately shower and primp? Then you'd spend most of your day feeling pretty, not slumpfy and it wouldn't take any extra time, just a different routine.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
I would give him a coronary, because I'm pretty sure, WHEN this thing turns around, he's going to be hearing all of my grievances at gunpoint! LoL (KIDDING!!!)