The less available you are the more valuable you become- you become "unattainable" or less "attainable". You become a challenge again- perhaps.
In my sitch I was on auto-pilot for 2 yrs. W and I took eachother for granted...the day she dropped the bomb and backed it up w/ actions- she became my world-
It's just the way it is...w/ waywards it's like dealing w/ a teenager- tell them not to do something and they do it, tell them go ahead and they probably wont do it.
It does suck that responsible and committed R/M's end up at this stage, but we are humans and we have frailties.
