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If Not Now, When? #1954869 03/09/10 05:36 PM
Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 6,948 Iowa BobbiJo OP Member
OP BobbiJo Member Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 6,948 Iowa	That is part of an inspirational quote from a Jewish leader...it seems fitting today... My mom texted me some more bad news. As you may recall we had a fundraiser/benefit for my Aunt/Uncle last August, both my mother's siblings. Uncle John had cancer in his sinuses/throat/etc. Kathy had a cancerous brain tumor removed. Well, as I mentioned recently, John's cancer has continued to spread and the doctors stopped all treatment. He is in the second week of his "two weeks to two months to live" prognosis. Meanwhile Aunt Kathy went for a routine follow-up scan. Last time there were a few small nodules in her thyroid. This time the nodules had grown in size and in number, from 2 to 3. Today she found out that she has a 9 mm section of cancer in the thyroid and they suspect more cancer in her throat or neck. Surgery in 3 weeks... It is time to stop wasting my life waiting for something that most likely will not happen. I just need to actively choose to keep moving forward everyday and do all I can to make my life the way I want it to be. Time to get un-stuck... Me-35 Together: 18 yrs M-12.5 yrs S-8 D-4 D'd: Feb. 2010 The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. --Zeph. 3:17

Re: If Not Now, When? BobbiJo #1954873 03/09/10 05:44 PM
Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 441 N nikblondiew Member
nikblondiew Member N Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 441	BJ, I am tremedously sorry for the bad news Cancer angers me. It is not fair. I absolutely adore the quote. I might need to write that one down. Time to get unstuck...couldn't be more fitting for me today, I'm angry today. Hope you're training is going well....you can do it! Me: 31 H: 30 Son 2.5 Minnesota

Re: If Not Now, When? nikblondiew #1954886 03/09/10 05:50 PM
Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 10,326 Kansas K kat727 Member
kat727 Member K Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 10,326 Kansas	Sorry to hear about your aunt. I am already weepy and that just made me tear up more. Time to live this life the way you want it. Keep it up hon. hugs, kat Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory

Re: If Not Now, When? kat727 #1954950 03/09/10 06:39 PM
Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 6,948 Iowa BobbiJo OP Member
OP BobbiJo Member Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 6,948 Iowa	The full quote: Hillel says, "If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?" So I need to remember to be my own advocate/protector (boundaries, self-care)... I need to remember to reach out to others and not get caught up in self-analysis and self-pity... I need to stop thinking so much and act... Me-35 Together: 18 yrs M-12.5 yrs S-8 D-4 D'd: Feb. 2010 The LORD your God is with you, he is mighty to save. --Zeph. 3:17

Re: If Not Now, When? BobbiJo #1954965 03/09/10 06:56 PM
Joined: May 2008 Posts: 4,715 Hilton, New York L LolaL Member
LolaL Member L Joined: May 2008 Posts: 4,715 Hilton, New York	Hey BBJ, sorry to hear about your aunt and uncle. It is painful to lose someone like that. Cancer is such a senseless killer. I like the quote. I think it might give us all pause to think a bit... Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

Re: If Not Now, When? LolaL #1955038 03/09/10 07:52 PM
Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 441 N nikblondiew Member
nikblondiew Member N Joined: Mar 2008 Posts: 441	As do I BJ, stop thinking/stewing so much and act! Me: 31 H: 30 Son 2.5 Minnesota

Re: If Not Now, When? nikblondiew #1955071 03/09/10 08:42 PM
Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 5,992 S smith18 Member
smith18 Member S Joined: Oct 2007 Posts: 5,992	I am sorry to hear about your aunt and uncle. I dont know if you have any Sushi places in Omaha that have a track where the kids and yourself can grab from as it goes by, but this sushi place sounds inexpensive and gets good reviews... Matsu Sushi 1009 Farnam Street Omaha This is the sushi place the kids and I visit quite often... http://sushihanaus.com/

Re: If Not Now, When? smith18 #1955084 03/09/10 08:56 PM
Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,254 Northern CA C cw68 Member
cw68 Member C Joined: Nov 2007 Posts: 1,254 Northern CA	BBJ, I'm very sorry to hear what you're going through. I understand your feelings completely because I'm currently losing my Dad to glioblastoma, a very aggressive form of brain cancer. It hurts and it shows me just how precious each day should be. Live without regret and with purpose -- not tomorrow, but today. Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09 My life is good.

Re: If Not Now, When? cw68 #1955103 03/09/10 09:17 PM
Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 10,261 K Kalni Member
Kalni Member K Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 10,261	I am sorry Bbj, I am facing the same with my dad. He scheduled his chemo today... Stay strong sweets! K Me&H:42 S11&D10 Bomb 5/2007-Sep 11/2007 Reconc.November 2009

Re: If Not Now, When? Kalni #1955145 03/09/10 09:55 PM
Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 1,049 Pacific Northwest (WA) S sandycay Member
sandycay Member S Joined: Jan 2008 Posts: 1,049 Pacific Northwest (WA)	UGH Bobbi J, Cancer sucks! I lost my father to it 2001. But I learned lessons from that experience and it seems you will too. I wish I could give you a hug. So from across the miles, I will be praying for your Aunt and Uncle. They have a tough road ahead of them. M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too

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