BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL #3

[elscotto]

Oh, FIB--this is a "date line" this is a close mutual friend line who was SHOCKED to discover an otherwise seemingly perfect marriage hit the skids in the course of a couple of months. Literally, we had people to our home, went out to dinner with them etc... and had the marriage most people modeled their own on. Affairs don't happen without vulnerability in most cases but sometimes mistakes are made with heavy drinking etc... and can get out of control.

My story with dates is this "Over the years we got busy with work, kids, and life and let little problems turn into big problems." If you date someone long enough though they want to know what the issues were really--who files, who instigated, etc...I don't believe its my responsibility to lie to cover up for a cheater and won't at that point. Until that point however discretion is the rule.

BTW--thanks for the kind words however I have had ZERO problem with celibacy in post marriage life ;-)

The real trick is people that want to become more attached than I am ready for at this point and being careful to set expectations to avoid hurting anyone if possible. My current lady who I have been dating for 2-3 months and for the last couple more exclusively says I certainly don't have a problem with confifence or lack thereof.