new information from W : NOW WHAT, pro's please .

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Mindfull,
I so agree with what your saying, but practicing it is a different challenge..

Great insight for me on the regaining the respect. I have started to do that.
The boundaries with the Crackberry and FB are tough because I feel that I would be controlling her, and this is why I leave it alone.

You see, we get along great for the most part. We live together, sleep in same bed, have dinner together as a family almost every night, but there is that void!...

I work from home. I am a mortgage broker. I am here 24- 7..
I take the kids to school everyday and pick them up. Make dinner every night becasue W works and comes home later and the kids are hungry... so is dad!! lol..
Somedays I feel like being a hardass and say, screw this!. if this is what you want then, BYE BYE!.... but I want my family together.

Regarding the trip. This is a toughy.. Kids dont know whats going on. They ask us at least once a week about going away. We usually do. Its all inclusive.
I now that my W mentioned it to my S14 and he said it would suck if she wasnt there. She told me that she felt badly when he said that.
I really want her to come, but I dont want to come across as pursuing or anything like that. I want to make her feel that I am letting go.