Your XH is like most WASs here: totally self-absorbed, putting their perceived need for "happiness" at the base of their "Maslowe's Hierarchy of Needs"! I saw a great slogan on a parent's bag in my school the other day. "The Search for Happiness is the Biggest Cause of Unhappiness"! Perfect!
Many of us who have been left continuously examine "What must I have done to make this happen?" Let it go. It doesn't matter. THEY were searching for something they will not find.
Or searching for something they unknowingly, unadmittedly already had. Thank you for this.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
