Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Allen,

I don't know if I mentioned it before but H isn't pushing for a divorce. He has never even mention the word. Just wanted to be separated. Not to say that he won't change his mind.

I read the last 5-6 pages of mb28's thread like you instructed and have drafted a letter to e-mail. I would like to slowly start the emotional backing away from H. I know if the kids could not talk to him, they would be heartbroken. I never initiate calls to him, I dial his number for the kids and the first voice that he hears is theirs. We usually chat afterward about the kids and bills, we say nothing pertaining to our situation. Here goes,

Dear H,

We love you and I married you for life. I want to remain married to you, and our children need their father. I am willing and committed to doing what it takes to being the spouse you've always wanted and to address the things that I did wrong in our marriage. This includes the kids and I moving to where you are.

Your affair is so painful for me and hurtful to our children that it will destroy the love I have for you and it will permanately injure our children.

That is all that I have. I don't think the no contact with the kids is doable at this time considering the geographic distance and he does not see the kids on a regular basis. I just want to let him know how I feel before I move on to more drastic measures. What does everyone think?