My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Awest-
I am definately not ignoring him. He chose to go stay at his mom's on feb 26th (when he started talking with the OW again) The last time I spoke with him was Mar 6th. He hasn't called and I haven't called him either. I am most definately certain that he will be mad at or blame me for the lack of communication. When he does contact me, I will respond of course in a somewhat timely manner.

Lolawar- I really can relate to your situation. I am reading this book titled "Is he depressed or what" about depression in males. I think maybe the book was written entirely about my husband. The attitude and way that he has treated me over the last year or two is due, I believe to his depression. I believe he has always been somewhat depressed but has become more depressed in the last 2-3 years after his father passed away.

However, that is not how he sees it. He is unhappy in our marriage, doesn't think he was ever happy in our marriage or should have ever been married. He also told me in November that he thought he was a pathalogical liar. WTF!

I am also always doing everything wrong and should be doing it a different way. We always have to work on what projects he feels are most important and if I am not doing it his way it angers him. Why I brushed off or ignored this behavior, I am not certain. I think I just felt he was under alot of stress and was going through something.

I'm afraid it will be to late before he realizes what he has been doing. I think in his little head, the fact that he goes over and stays at his mom's that it is "ok" to talk with or see the other woman because he isn't "with" me. Somehow that isn't cheating. This is so messed up.

On Saturday Mar 6th, he claimed he wasn't seeing/dating her, she wasn't working at his work and that she was back and forth from here and the East Coast. I called him out on his lie, he left his work schedule at our house and she is clearly on the schedule. He said "fine maybe she is working, I don't know". LIAR! I just don't get it. My friend told me when she figures our what flight he is on, she will ask that it "return to earth".

I do know that my husband needs therapy for himself at the very least. He will not do it though. He doesn't have a problem in his eyes, I am the problem and he needs a divorce possibly according to him.