As bworl said, don't look back at the aftermath but just keep going forward. The facts are: your wife lied openly to you and met someone clandestinely. She didn't say she made a mistake and wanted the marriage to work. She pushed by you and continued to see another man.

Keep your head up. Stay focused on your kids. Get them out and do things with them. You'll find that you are going to be fine.

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;