BUNS, ABS, AND HEART OF STEEL #3

[elscotto]

I love this thread. I have been divorced for 5 mos and 6.5 mos since the bomb and discovery of the affair.

Its been tough but me and the OM's ex wife stay in touch and regularly and agree that it gets easier easier easier every day. Its impossible not to be stronger as a result of this and be a better person if we'll allow ourselves.

Its so funny in a way because I used to feel so ashamed because my ex had an affair but now its a pretty open topic with me that I discuss freely. I don't offer it up but if the subject comes up of the divorce and why I just say "Hey, she decided that life sucked with me and that there was a better way forward. Her answer was to have an affair and since that wasn't part of the agreement I signed when we stood in front of God, Family, and Friends and made our vows we got divorced. Then, I shrug my shoulders and simply point out that you can't control everything around you in life and you certainly can't control the actions and decisions of others. Further, you can't protect people fromt hemselves if they are hell bent for making a bad decision so be it. March forward, seize the day, and repeat those good things that made you the person you are that people know and love and throw out those things that you've allowed to be a negative influence and distraction to you.

My 2 cents.